|Break-up is inevitable |
in some cases
A study conducted by a leading research firm has revealed that most of the divorces take place in the following two chronological system:
1. within 5-7 years of marriage: this is the time when a child is born or is growing up; expectations are built wrt taking responsibilities for the child and the family; conflicts and disharmony sets in.
2. around 10-12 years of marriage: as individuals the partners have matured; already have a kid in the 5-6 years age group; mid-life crisis with stressed out work-life and family life, leading to loss of intimacy and connection - even if some of the couples tend to compromise with the situation, in most cases there is undoubtedly an outburst, leading to a break-up or divorce
Sex and divorce are two of the most emotionally potent subjects of our time. When combined, they create a psychological cocktail with all the portents of both ecstasy and hang-over, of pleasure and pain, of risk and failure. And, as with any strong elixir, the subliminal message reads: handle with care.
In this article, I would try to elaborate the second point - that is the breakups in marital lives that are effected because of a poor sexual relationship and how to cope with the same.
So, let's take a look at some of the causes that lead to a reduction of sexual intimacy of couples:
|Loss of intimacy in bed after a 10-12 years of married life, |
is a major cause of breakup
3. Regular mental agonies bred from family related situations or caused by the immediate environment (neighbourhood, friends, relatives, colleagues) can impact an individual's personalilty, leading to a gradual dissociation of the person from any physical intimacy. This is a typical social dissociation process as defined by social psychologists. Human mental processes are greatly affected by their social environment which reflects in physical relationships as well. Situations like this needs to be handled with a lot of maturity.
Hence what am I trying to establish here? Very simple. In a mature relationship, closeness, affection and sexual intimacy is a physical or physiological need. But this need is driven by certain psychological stimuli. At a mature age, understanding these stimuli are easier than at the high-school or college levels. Kids in the age group of 16-24 end up getting into some form of physical relationship - guided by peer pressure, physiological drives and various other environmental stimuli. In many a cases these kids end up tying the knots and soon realize how these knots stifle them to their own end. India surely needs a strong network of counselors at high schools, colleges and even at the university levels. The role of these counselors is not to dissuade these young couples from loving or tying the knots, but rather to give them a positive stroke of understanding life better. Sexual drive alone will never make one's life happier...